Wedding or stump grinding ?

[skc101fc]

Obviously from the initial phone call she's not as happy about sharing her entire life with a stump grinder as you believe.

[Mull]

 

Then they should Laugh it off, instead of all the precious their special day stuff. You are consistent Stefan grinding 16 hour days, then dreaming about it another 6!

 

 

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How come Stefan only has 22 hrs in his day?

[scraggs]

If you had agreed to go when she first mentioned it then you are out of order.

If you didn't want to go you should have said so from the off.

[aspenarb]

If Stefan is not careful he will return home one day to find Mrs Stefan grinding on stumps.

 

Bob

[Chopperbob]

I am often guilty of working weekends etc maybe time that should be better spent, but when I'm instructed about a certain event or trip it's not really negotiable. if She gives me a bit of notice about the shindig - weddings etc don't normally get booked for next week normally tons of notice. then I go,admittedly not always wanting to but hey ho HAPPY WIFE HAPPY LIFE Once you get there you usually find you have a good time and enjoy your self and welcome the hair letting down session

[marne]

With a bigger hp grinder you could have had short work and a happy wife. The sad, it's too late for now, the good, you got the perfect excuse for an upgrade.

 

I fully understand your preference, but weddings for some reason, are some of the most important things for females, you should have been at the side of your always understanding wife.

 

Upgrade before it's too late .

[jaime bray]

Without knowing your personal circumstances it's hard to comment on certain aspects. However, if you are up to your neck in debt, have recently returned from a expensive holiday, are saving for house extension or kids university fees looming, and if the job could not have been rearranged for a day or two later, and the client is a major contributor to your workload then its justified that you were trying to sustain income both now and for the future to continue to fulfil your financial needs and went to work.

 

The information given lends itself to believe that for you working is your hobby, so an opportunity came up for you to indulge in your hobby, you took the opportunity.

 

One way to look at this would be to turn it on its head.

Lets say you had huge job on where you need a second person, the job is in a very open public area, you needed a second pair of eyes. You had arranged with your gf to be there, keeping an eye on general public and watching your back. Nobody else could have replaced her as the job didn't financially justify a second man because you had to be competitive, nobody else was available anyway that you would trust.

 

The night before the job your gf gets a phone call "hey, fancy going to a spa day tomorrow," your gf mates mum is not able to go and gf has been offered a day at a spa free of charge. She doesn't like stump grinding anyway so she says yes, turns to you and says you're on your own tomorrow, enjoy your day I'm off to the spa.

 

How would you feel?

 

There are many situations in life where we have to do things we don't want to. Where we can self justify"letting people down". Ultimately, you let your gf down, she will have some kind of scar from that. Human nature in some people will lend to their thinking that when events like this occur, they can't rely on some people. Only you know how good or bad this had gone down within your household. Only you know the extent to which you need to go to, if needed, to make things good, to explain and show your understanding but also how much the relationship means to you.

 

Good luck, and of she is a keeper, don't under estimate the extent your apology may need to extend to.

[cornish wood burner]

With a bigger hp grinder you could have had short work and a happy wife. The sad, it's too late for now, the good, you got the perfect excuse for an upgrade.

 

I fully understand your preference, but weddings for some reason, are some of the most important things for females, you should have been at the side of your always understanding wife.

 

Upgrade before it's too late .

 

She might already be thinking about an upgrade.

[kevinjohnsonmbe]

How come Stefan only has 22 hrs in his day?

 

So efficient he catches up with himself for the missing 2 hrs?

 

Stump-grinding time machine?

 

2 hours a day on Arbtalk?

[kevinjohnsonmbe]

Without knowing your personal circumstances it's hard to comment on certain aspects. However, if you are up to your neck in debt, have recently returned from a expensive holiday, are saving for house extension or kids university fees looming, and if the job could not have been rearranged for a day or two later, and the client is a major contributor to your workload then its justified that you were trying to sustain income both now and for the future to continue to fulfil your financial needs and went to work.

 

The information given lends itself to believe that for you working is your hobby, so an opportunity came up for you to indulge in your hobby, you took the opportunity.

 

One way to look at this would be to turn it on its head.

Lets say you had huge job on where you need a second person, the job is in a very open public area, you needed a second pair of eyes. You had arranged with your gf to be there, keeping an eye on general public and watching your back. Nobody else could have replaced her as the job didn't financially justify a second man because you had to be competitive, nobody else was available anyway that you would trust.

 

The night before the job your gf gets a phone call "hey, fancy going to a spa day tomorrow," your gf mates mum is not able to go and gf has been offered a day at a spa free of charge. She doesn't like stump grinding anyway so she says yes, turns to you and says you're on your own tomorrow, enjoy your day I'm off to the spa.

 

How would you feel?

 

There are many situations in life where we have to do things we don't want to. Where we can self justify"letting people down". Ultimately, you let your gf down, she will have some kind of scar from that. Human nature in some people will lend to their thinking that when events like this occur, they can't rely on some people. Only you know how good or bad this had gone down within your household. Only you know the extent to which you need to go to, if needed, to make things good, to explain and show your understanding but also how much the relationship means to you.

 

Good luck, and of she is a keeper, don't under estimate the extent your apology may need to extend to.

 

That's deep & thoughtful! A message to us all in there somewhere....