Potus ???

[peds]

11 minutes ago, peds said:

 

And you think there isn't enough of this in modern schools?

You want more of this?

 

9 minutes ago, GarethM said:

Modern that was 30 years ago.

 

Jeeesus... do we really need a bit of string tied to each of your posts so you can keep track of them? You say there isn't enough bullying in schools these days, not like the good old days when you were being chiselled into the rugged individual you've become. 

 

What exactly are you asking for? What steps do think schools should take to ensure an increase in the right kind of bullying? 

 

I am... flabbergasted. I know there's often disagreements on here... but arguing that there isn't enough bullying in schools?

Can you even hear yourself?

[GarethM]

Well here's the question peds, seeing I'm of the generation that grew up with all this modern stuff including Quake, Doom, Facebook and WhatsApp were later but we still has ICQ, MSN messenger etc.

 

Why don't you explain the variable that's missed my generation and made recent kids so soft and mentally unstable then ?.

 

Whilst you might scoff at my chiselled resilience from having been physical and verbal bullied, everyone else would have equally seen it and kept their heads down.

[Stere]

I remember  seeing a  ginger kid getting attacked in my school and a  door reapeatedly slammed on his head after he had been beaten to the ground and fallen down

 

He was never quite the same afterwards.

 

Must of done him good?

 

Some other kid I recall whos front   teeth were knocked out and  had to get dentures.

 

Character building activites......

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited July 24, 2024 by Stere

[AHPP]

[sime42]

Fighting is another thing that's missing in today's schools, it's what hardens you and makes you more resilient.

 

 

[sime42]

Anyway, dragging this back on topic. I'm sure there'll be plenty of bullying occurring if and when the new Trump administration starts. Much of it by the demagogue himself.

 

 

[Mick Dempsey]

I’d rather discuss bullying tbh.

 

I have been bullied and also been a bully. As long as it doesn’t get out of hand it can serve a purpose in teaching you life lessons.
Things like who you can trust (pretty much no one) 

How to avoid getting a hiding, how to make friends who will protect you.

Not forgetting every morning being filled with absolute dread on the way to school, which prepares you for adulthood.

Of course I’m not defending it, but it’s a fact of life, for boys and girls and they can pick up life skills that can serve them well.

[Rich Rule]

5 hours ago, Steven P said:

Taking the piss - where deserved and banter is one thing, fair and even and to all, but a systematic single out of an individual to be the butt of all banter, all piss takes isn't.

 

If your children came in and told you they didn't want to go to school any more because another child or group was bullying them, what would you do? Force the child to school with no changes made because 'it is good for them to suffer' yet knowing that your child sitting in fear in the class room is never going to bring the best out of them, they'll never fulfil their potential? But life lesson learnt.

 

 

 

 

(As an edit, and a side comment, there is millions spent every year on child mental health professionals dealing with exactly this - the school refusers because of bullying, that is millions that could be spent on proper doctors and nurses!)

I would teach them how to handle the bullies.  Not only will it stop the bullying it would increase their self esteem and allow them to tackle future difficult situations with a point of reference to fall back on.

 

Just my pennies worth.

 

I guess teaching your kids how to handle themselves in a confrontational situation isn’t really PC but I can tell you from experience (myself and both my teenage boys). It definitely works.

 

If a child is given the opportunity to back out of every thing and be pampered then so be it.  Not my kids and not on my watch!

[Mick Dempsey]

3 minutes ago, Rich Rule said:

I would teach them how to handle the bullies.  Not only will it stop the bullying it would increase their self esteem and allow them to tackle future difficult situations with a point of reference to fall back on.

 

Just my pennies worth.

 

I guess teaching your kids how to handle themselves in a confrontational situation isn’t really PC but I can tell you from experience (myself and both my teenage boys). It definitely works.

 

If a child is given the opportunity to back out of every thing and be pampered then so be it.  Not my kids and not on my watch!

Easy to say Rich, you’re a big lad and have taught your boys MA.

 

[Rich Rule]

2 minutes ago, Mick Dempsey said:

Easy to say Rich, you’re a big lad and have taught your boys MA.

 

Quire true.

 

But I have seen many problem children, bullies and those being bullied change their attitude from learning Martial Arts.

 

I can’t advocate enough the benefits of Martial Arts.

 

I have also told my boys that if I ever catch them doing the bullying then it all stops.

 

Thankfully, they have both grown into fine young individuals.  They have gained confidence, the benefits of exercise and discipline from their instructors.  They have respect for elders and authority.

 

Imagine this.  Haakon was 8 years old.  Growing up in South London.  He was punched in the face at school by a kid a couple of years older.  I was a bit miffed because he didn’t react because he thought he would get in trouble or with the teachers.  I told him I would be in his corner and stick up for him if the teachers had a go.

 

He then replied.  There was no point because the punch didn’t hurt.

 

A calculated and mature response and thoughts from an 8 year old.