Dave i respect anyone's views around excessive drinking, we all see it differently . Not everyone that drinks heavily will become addicted to the level i did, everyone has a different bottom with it.
The problem i have with what you are saying is why did you find it necessary to drink up to two bottles of wine each night ? Did you like the taste of it that much, or did you drink for effect ? If its for the taste alone then there are other drinks that taste good without the negative outcome alcohol can bring, if someone is drinking to excess on a regular basis who is in control of that situation, the person or the alcohol.
I have no problem around alcohol and how others use it, i am not them, however i had to accept that alcohol and myself are not a good mix and thats fine with me, my life functions without it, and i am happy with that. The alternative for me would be to experiment with controlled drinking, i have tried that one many times before i quit, and accept now i could be just one drink away from the gutter. That works for me.