Dealing with shock!

[Rich2484]

Ok. Here's the story.

 

Today I was attending a lifeboat fund raising event, various stalls and bits going on. Had the missis doing a craft stall and my boy with us. I was dressing up as stormy stan, a character for the RNLI, kids love it sort if thing.

 

Anyway doing the raffle last thing and the other come rushing over with my boy and she is a complete state of panic, my boy is screaming his head off. She shouts he's bleeding, look at him and its pouring from the back of his head.

 

He was playing and fell backwards onto a rock. Cut into his head. I get him sat down and a Coxan and first aider see to him and bandage him up. I was trying to get out of the stan costume.

 

Took him to a and e and they cleaned him up, and glued the wound, a big wound aswell, 2cm long and had opened up enough to see bone. But glued him up, got home and it was bleeding a bit. Took him back and they glued up the leaking parts. Then bandage.

 

Got him home, he was fine over it, just a bit shell shocked over it. The other was in a right state and saying it was her fault etc etc. I know it wasn't as boys will be boys. But anyway she i cut up over it and will be for a few days.

 

Now everyone is in bed and I'm left alone, now I'm thinking about it and cut up over I didn't do enough at first. I know I had to get out of the costume and everything but I didn't do that first aid when I should have, left it to a member of the lifeboat.

 

Anyway I guess its hitting me a bit and I'm really trying to get it off my chest, but I can't seem to get it clear.

 

I've not had shock before, is it normal. Talking helps I know but with no one around I've come on here.

 

Damn its been a busy week.

 

Anyone else had this or what?

[easy-lift guy]

You did nothing wrong. You did not loose your head, your son was treated, and barring anything unforseen should make a complete recovery. Your Wife will as you said go on about it for some time to come and I would just let it work it's way out of her system.

Don't beat yourself up about this matter. I suspect the shock of the whole ordeal will take time to run it's course. All the best.

easy-lift guy

[geoff]

Natural for you to feel like that as a parent,you did ok,the boy is alright, that is what matters here.

Have a nice hot & sweet drink of tea or hot chocolate,take a few deep breaths, & get up to bed & give the wife a kiss goodnight.

You will be fine in the morning mate.

[Stephen Blair]

They came to you, you organised the treatment, everyone's home safe! Job done!!

If you went for a pint rather than help, then you would be a bad dad!!

Your training and experience jumped in , now you are home and all alone, you are dad again.

I worry myself to sleep every night about the days near misses, my lack of patience and how I could of done things better!

You did good mate:)

[agrimog]

adrenalin has stoped pumping, now your on a come down, shock will start to set in, its very difficult not to start thinking all the different scenarios that could have happened, but as has been said already your training took over and you done everything by the book, your wifes maternal instnct kicked in when her baby came home injured, shell be better in the morning, best thing for you now is a nice cup of sweet tea, corny I know, but it replaces the sugars you burned when running on overload, and a good nights sleep, see what a new day brings, just be thankfull you had good training, and I hope your boy gets better quickly, start of a good scar collection, hell be showing it off to his pals before you know

[Peasgood]

You did ok mate, don't beat yourself up.

[silky fox]

As said by the lads....you did everything you could...I think you are to be admired mate...dressing up as Stan the RNLI mascot makes the kids smile and maybe inspires them to join up when they're older and we will always need volenteers:)....when the accident happened you swapped over to your role as Dad, Did what you could and your Son is home safe...hope he gets well soon...Good on you mate!

[likeitorlumpit]

If the option is there sometimes first aid is best left to someone less connected to the patient. Anyway- heads bleed lots. Women sometimes panic. Kids always have scrapes. You'll be fine. Just need to go on those' get out of costume' courses- try and get your time down a bit:001_smile:

[Stubby]

You were spot on bud . Not being in a position to do first aid ( hampered by costume ) you quickly organized the cox and a trained first aider to tend to your lad . Sometimes when its personal its better to to have someone else so nothing is over looked . Well done and speedy recovery .

[Sussex Groundie]

Sorry to hear abut your lad's accident. Just an accident ok, right place to have it in front of trained first aiders, no one could have done any more, as everyone has said you did the right thing, kept your cool under pressure. Hope this nice sunny Bank Holiday weekend all will get better soon.