Dog dilema

[Tommy_B]

Tell her that you sent it off with 6 cans of pedigree chum and a road map of Derby and she should expect it in 7 to 8 weeks.

[Robert_S]

Tell her she's not getting it back as its condition was bordering on cruelty, it's in a Better place with a caring owner and if she wants another pet you will buy her tortoise or Similar that takes little effort to look after, or go and get her a beagle cause they can smoke hundreds of fags a day so might be a better companion

[hedgesparrow]

she has 4 carers a day to look after her how can she look after the dog. just say that she is unable to look after a dog of this size. and that for the dogs welfare you have had it adopted and is now living in the countryside. going for walks every day. i did think of a cat but if she is overfeeding the dog then cat will be worse off. just got to be true full to her and tell her what you have done and why. can always get the new owners to send her photos which do not reveal were dog is with a letter saying how she is getting on what the dog has been doing. think you will find she will appreciate this and accept it.

not a easy thing to do

[Rob D]

Sorry to hear about your loss Big J...

 

 

 

As already said maybe another pet like a budgie, goldfish or similar that takes minimal care but does give some company.

 

 

[Tom D]

I'm with Mark, just tell her its dead.

[Reddog]

First sorry you have to deal with a aging family member. Good on you for helping were you can, it can be very taxing on everyone.

With her having dementia just pick the story you want to keep telling her every five minutes or what ever her length of retention she has now.

Anyone telling you to reason with her has most likely not had the sadness of dealing/reasoning with a dementia patient.

 

I would use the dog passing myself. Any other story could easily morph into it was stolen, possibly creating other legal issues.

[Big J]

She already has two cats. The difficulty is that she was in hospital quite a lot with cancer 3 years ago when the cats were young, so they weren't well socialised. Consequently, they are rather independent and aloof. They seem to be in reasonable health.

 

My aunt's dementia is early stage. Medium and long term memory is OK, but short term is poor. She tends to remember what she wants to remember. My mum is essentially her next of kin and does all the care work the carers won't (despite the fact that she is my mum's ex sister in law - parent's divorced, my dad and my aunt don't get on) and it's just more work for her (and she has a lot given my sister has serious mental health problems).

 

I've found in increasingly of late with a variety of people - there are just some people that you cannot rationalise with. My aunt is regrettably one of them.

 

I figure that she is going to be angry with my regardless - I might as well tell the truth. I would love to get her to the point where she was happy for the lovely life her dog was having. I'd even bring her down for visits, but I think that might be a struggle.

 

I saw Ellie the retriever today at our friends and she is looking superb. Perfect weight, goes like the proverbial doo da off a shovel and spends half her life ourdoors playing in the snow, trying to dig our rabbits or lying in front of the fire.

 

She lives in the house on the far bank:

 

[slackbladder]

Sorry to hear about your loss BigJ

 

How can you take the dog from that envoirenment

[landygirl]

It sounds like you have done really well with the dog and I'm sure you have it's best interest at heart. Someone has to look out for these animals, they often are the ones to suffer in silence. Tell her it died, it would be the kindest thing for both parties and buy her a goldfish.x

[growforest]

Tell her the truth. Take a short film of her new life now and again and send a dvd for carers to show your aunt. And don't feel guilty - you have one your best. Try not to take too much of the weight of the situation. Stand back and assess what's good for you too. Best wishes