Nicola Bulley missing ...

[Stubby]

2 minutes ago, Gimlet said:

Maybe they don't want to. Abduction at least holds out the possibility that she might come back to them alive. Washed out to sea in a tidal river realistically has only one outcome. 

 

Hence why I think too much public speculation can't be making their ordeal any easier. 

Well you have just speculated the two most popular theories to date .

[eggsarascal]

21 minutes ago, Gimlet said:

Maybe they don't want to. Abduction at least holds out the possibility that she might come back to them alive. Washed out to sea in a tidal river realistically has only one outcome. 

 

Hence why I think too much public speculation can't be making their ordeal any easier. 

Hang on, you’re banging on about things that shouldn’t be spoken about for fear of upsetting the family, then chuck in, abduction. This lady may have wanted to go missing.

 

[Doug Tait]

15 minutes ago, Gimlet said:

Maybe they don't want to.

 

I consider this sentiment to be highly likely. From what I know of people at times of great stress like this they'll believe anything rather than the worst, however implausible. I've seen people convince themselves of the most fantastical scenarios rather than accept the obvious in order to accept the finality of a situation.

 

I've been there myself when the Police arrived on the doorstop to give me the worst news possible I argued for a long time as to all the reasons they had clearly got it wrong, but they hadn't and with the clarity of hindsight I could see just how desperate my thinking was.

 

Heart goes out to the people involved with this.

[spuddog0507]

3 hours ago, eggsarascal said:

Strange old affair! I hope you are wrong, but…

I do as well,, there is nothing that points to her just clearing off, i believe from one or 2 locals that knew her, that her home life was good, she had a good job and mothers dont walk out on there kids !!, Now her job would ring alarm bells with me a being a mortgage advisor she will of turned one or two down over the years and even more so of late with the increase in interest rates !!! , 

[Guest Gimlet]

49 minutes ago, eggsarascal said:

Hang on, you’re banging on about things that shouldn’t be spoken about for fear of upsetting the family, then chuck in, abduction. This lady may have wanted to go missing.

 

Two short sentences is hardly banging on, and abduction is not a suggestion I have thrown in. That theory has been rife across social media and the press from the start. And my point was that dissecting such possibilities any more deeply would be unhelpful for the family for precisely the reasons that @Doug Tait relates above. Which is why I won't be doing it. 

Edited February 4, 2023 by Gimlet

[Mike Hill]

10 hours ago, coppice cutter said:

Coastguard, search and rescue, lifeboat people, will tell you that the sea always gives up it's dead.

 

If she went to sea, the body will eventually wash up somewhere in a few weeks or even months.

 

Seems a brutal thing to say but it's just the harsh reality.

Depends on the water temperature.

 

Around here if you drown and sink past 100m thats it. The water is so cold the crustations eat up the corpse before any gas can form that would usually bring a body to the surface.

 

Totally nothing but bones after a week.

 

[Mull]

12 hours ago, coppice cutter said:

Coastguard, search and rescue, lifeboat people, will tell you that the sea always gives up it's dead.

 

 

it doesn’t, you’re talking bollocks I’m afraid.

[coppice cutter]

2 hours ago, Mull said:

it doesn’t, you’re talking bollocks I’m afraid.

That's what they told me, so you actually mean that they're talking bollocks.

 

Either that or you're just trying to be a smart-arsed prick as usual.

 

On past experience I'd say it's the latter.

[Mull]

6 hours ago, coppice cutter said:

That's what they told me, so you actually mean that they're talking bollocks.

 

Yes.

[eggsarascal]

20 minutes ago, Mull said:

Yes.

Didn’t you used to work at sea?