Wedding or stump grinding ?

[skc101fc]

Why bother adding more fuel to the fire of self glorification, leave him chomping away in the dog bowl of life.

[Stefan Palokangas]

I get the feeling that this is a subconscious cry for help Stefan. Workaholism is as damaging as any other olism, the problem is instead of draining wealth it generates it, is scocietally approved of, and doesn't necessarily ruin your health. But its still a symptom of something amiss at a deep level.

 

 

 

That feeling of success, of the triumph of pulling off yet another job, the endorphin kick of pocketing the cheque, and the self congradualting that ensues can, in the end, become a shallow parody of true fulfilment.

 

 

 

There may be people who are constitutionally built to work long hours, and really don't need a family life (not kids necessarily, but just some kind of companionship), I don't think you are one of them. The very fact that you asked for reinforcement of your self imposed non-stop work ethic makes me think that you are not happy. In other words, it feels like theres a bit of denial going on.

 

 

 

Some people flee from deep seated unconscious self-esteem issues by compulsively working. As long as they are busy and productive the feel ok about themselves - their self worth is dependant on their productivity.

 

 

 

This is particularly the case culturally in northern and middle Europe - the so called protestant work ethic. I have known many germans, in particular (my own grandfather included) who feel "guilty" if they don't rise before seven. This quirk of mass psychology helped the west become a powerhouse of industry, and is now helping the eastern nations do the same. But at an individual level it can be damaging.

 

 

 

What Im trying to say is, this is not about your fiancé, or the wedding, its about your own soul and journey through life. We all have our cross to bare, psychologically speaking - we all have issues and most of the time our issues remain unresolved - and probably unresolvable. But its key that we acknowledge that we HAVE issues, that we are aware of them.

 

 

Thanks for such thoughtful reply from yourself, it's with sadness sir I must inform you your opinion is not valid

 

 

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[TIMON]

not financially viable? There'd only be 1 potential subscriber and he doesn't think he'd need it anyway..., 😆

 

 

🙂.....

[TIMON]

Thanks for such thoughtful reply from yourself, it's with sadness sir I must inform you your opinion is not valid

 

 

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But if he is right then you would say that! 🙂🙂

[eggsarascal]

But if he is right then you would say that! 🙂🙂

 

Or would he?

[Mat]

Why post it on here and ask for people's opinions, when you say your right anyway??

You've let your other half down simple.

 

I assume you have known about this occasion for a while and it was not just sprung on you, so was it not wrong of you to have booked work on that day anyway. I'm sure the client would of waited.

 

But he didn't ask for anyones opinion.

 

He asked for support.

 

If you feel you can't offer support, maybe do something else (like getting off the internet, and interacting with your family (oh, the irony)).

[Ty Korrigan]

In Stefan, we may have found a replacement for Mendiplogs.

Both are quite mad with shaky English...

Ty:biggrin:

[Stefan Palokangas]

I'm off to order new scuba gear, and hit the depth of the Scottish waters

 

 

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[Mark_Skyland]

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[Stefan Palokangas]

But if he is right then you would say that! [emoji846][emoji846]

 

 

Listen son ! I do and say only truth I don't hide behind words without meaning.

 

 

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