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[Andy Collins]

John, this is something I know nothing about (certainly at the level you're at) but this isnt healthy for you, your relationship with your ex, or your kids. You need real help, from real professionals who specialise in mental illness, before you go too far. Accepting here that you have a problem is only the 1st step, see your GP and take it from there. Best of luck, mate.

[John Hancock]

Thanks Andy, I’ve been wondering around a marina in the sunshine this morning – looking at narrow boats for sale – made me feel a lot better! I think I now accept that Dr. Hancock cant sort this out on his own, I’ll throw in the towel and get some help. Cheers big fella.

[Dean Lofthouse]

Yes seriously John, your in the danger zone.

 

I know exactly the feeling, one minute your rational and normal, the next a bomb of frustration explodes within and you cannot control it.

 

I was seriously stressed a good few years ago and ended up confronting a plonker of a motorist in a road rage and rather than hit him I tore his car to pieces and when a crowd gathered I challenged them all as well, I was out of control.

 

It's a thing that needs help John, you honestly cannot do it yourself, just the release of telling someone who is guenuinely concerned and wanting to help is a massive release.

 

Go and c get counceling John

[Stephen Blair]

hi john, as the guys said, its time to seek help. this is a place to get it off your chest, i read your post yesterday and didnt know what to say, i am just a tree cutter who got stressed once and got a little help from a hypnotherapist. i was scared to answer incase i said something wrong. i have a friend who has went through worse in the last 2 months, i mean a lot worse.the long story short is, he is back at work good as new and all his friends stuck by him along the way. straight to the gp mate. good luck:001_smile:

[detritus21]

Having read through all 16 pages it made me realise I'm not the only one out there who has similar problems. I've said before I'm not fully into tree work but am working towards setting myself up.

 

I'm actually a fully qualified physiotherapist but have become so dissolutioned with it all that I realised I had/have to get out before it does drive me over the edge. For at least the last 12 months I've been walking round with my head in the clouds unable to concentrate at work and on life to the point where I certainly don't care about the work aspect and this has started to affect relationships at home. I've been doing some tree work on and off over the last 2 years and I realised that tree work is the only time I really focus and enjoy what I'm doing in terms of work. Whether it be felling trees or simply chopping firewood it just gives me a massive sense of release and fulfillment. It probably sounds daft really.

 

I've often thought about getting in the car and just driving to try and escape. I'm often late for work (Physio work) because I don't want to be there but no one knows I'm late as no one knows what I do. I'd become a very effective liar, although that came easy as someone who at the age of 26 has already overcome a gambling problem and being a liar was all part and parcel of that. A sense of doom and dread was probably the final straw for me and made me realise how bad things have become

 

As a result of this I made a decision a couple of months back to start by reducing the Physio hours and doing more tree related work for myself rather than the bent company I've done stuff for in the past. Actually get myself fully qualified and hopefully do my RFS cert. I already have a small firewood business which keeps me occupied it doesn't make me much money but I don't care about money (unlike my wife). I'm not blinkered and realise that changing my career won't be the only thing that gets me back on track but I may as well do something I love doing and have the associated stresses of this rather than something I hate and the stresses that come with that. No one really ever realises what problems I have because I am so laid back most of the time and can put a up a good front.

 

Well thats me. 1 hour left before I can get out of the physio office and start chopping some firewood and burning some brash.

[K.T.S Tom]

Thats some honest stuff. I wish you luck detritus.

[Stephen Blair]

good luck detritus

[TimberCutterDartmoor]

So much real stuff here in this thread; I was a combustion engineer for 8 years before redundancy led to me getting back to trees and grounds maintenance. Redundancy was the right thing at the right time - I was ill with stress and having a Forestry background as a fall-back position was frankly wonderful. Ok, so I'm self-employed with it's associated issues but down-shifting a gear was the only way to go. To get out of the rat race - do it if you can.

[John Hancock]

 

I've often thought about getting in the car and just driving to try and escape. I'm often late for work (Physio work) because I don't want to be there but no one knows I'm late as no one knows what I do. I'd become a very effective liar, although that came easy as someone who at the age of 26 has already overcome a gambling problem and being a liar was all part and parcel of that. A sense of doom and dread was probably the final straw for me and made me realise how bad things have become

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Well done for seeing the light detritus! I got into tree work after I worked for Draper Tools as a sales rep. I spent a week being trained at their head-office and then I went out on the road – I lasted two days!! I drove the car down to the office in Southampton, posted the keys through the door and got on the first train to Worcestershire. It was then I bought a 357 and got myself on a chainsaw course. I love this work and as you say – you can switch off all your troubles as you have to concentrate so much!

 

Anyway, best of luck – go for the RFS Cert Arb, I highly recommend it!

 

If you do get stressed in the office – sing this little song and see if it helps……

 

 

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[Highland Forestry]

arrrrrrrrrrggghhhhh!!!