Lost job ☹️

[SamanthaSunny]

I have been away from this site for a few weeks because I have been moving house 😬 I thought I would update my new wee friends on here that the job I was offered before Christmas has fallen through !!! And the reason is WAIT FOR IT ........

 

His wife does not want a female on the team 😳 I bumped into my new potential boss shopping with his wife and not even 2 hours later I received a call to say my new boss can no longer offer me a job. I understand that family comes first and, yes happy wife, happy life but is this fair ? I value all opinions and I am now questioning whether I will EVER find a place to work. My husband works with plenty of women and I would NEVER try to control who he works around. Any advice please ?

[Woodworks]

Sorry to hear that Sam. Good luck with the job hunting.

[Treewolf]

I thought that it was illegal to discriminate on the basis of gender.

[Doug Tait]

Disappointing for you, keep trying though, and on the bright side at least you weren't 6 months in and settled when you met her 

[Dan Maynard]

I thought that it was illegal to discriminate on the basis of gender.

I think so too but even if you win this argument will you want the victory? I agree it stinks but going to employment tribunal is no fun for anyone.

It does sound like a bit of a knee jerk reaction, maybe with a bit of time the wife will come round. Then again maybe they just had a massive row and she'll never warm to you.

Don't give up. Maybe it's saving up and doing CS30/31 yourself?

[SamanthaSunny]

4 minutes ago, Treewolf said:

I thought that it was illegal to discriminate on the basis of gender.

It was a verbal agreement after I introduced myself to the team whilst they were working and begged for a chance to prove myself. There was no job advertised 🙂 i don’t want to cause any bad feelings truly, life’s too precious to waste on anger. I’m just concerned now that I will be turned down again because I’m a woman  ☹️

[SamanthaSunny]

17 minutes ago, Woodworks said:

Sorry to hear that Sam. Good luck with the job hunting.

Thankyou  woodworks 🙂 I will keep trying 

[SamanthaSunny]

9 minutes ago, Doug Tait said:

Disappointing for you, keep trying though, and on the bright side at least you weren't 6 months in and settled when you met her 

That’s true it would be really heartbreaking if I had fitted in well too 🙂 I like your thinking 

[SamanthaSunny]

4 minutes ago, Dan Maynard said:

I think so too but even if you win this argument will you want the victory? I agree it stinks but going to employment tribunal is no fun for anyone.

It does sound like a bit of a knee jerk reaction, maybe with a bit of time the wife will come round. Then again maybe they just had a massive row and she'll never warm to you.

Don't give up. Maybe it's saving up and doing CS30/31 yourself?

I am paying for my own courses Dan I would not expect any help I just wanted to watch and learn on the job. I would never cause trouble like tribunals because we all have to find a happy balance between home life and work so I understand he had to let me go. My main concern is will I ever get a job as a tree surgeon now or will every employer see me as a problem ? 

[Silverhooker]

If the boss makes his work decisions based on his wife’s whims then I think he probably won’t be a great boss, you may have dodged a bullet there.