changing your life

[Stephen Blair]

Met a customer up the gym this morning and we had a great chat about all things possible, i dont know what he does but he really is a wise and clever guy, very calm and easy to talk to. We got discussing business and life and he said he hadnt seen my mog about, i told him that i had sold it and was just pottering about in the van and little chipper and i was a lot happier in life with out the stresses of repairs and running cost etc. I still question my decision to down size kit and take things easier, but after talking to this guy i feel a lot more comfortable with my career choice. So just incase any of you guys are at a cross roads i thought this little bit of info might help.

 

He grew up with 3 other friends and they all hit a point in there life where they went there own ways, his decision in life when he was younger was to emigrate to America, so did his other friend, one other became a mathematics professor at Cambridge University and another became an alcoholic.

 

He told me you have 3 choices, Adapt. Migrate. or Perish.

hope this isnt too deep for a satuarday afternoon:001_smile:

[sean]

choice no4.....accept that we are temporary. live each day as it comes and accept that we all have our own paths. We are all equal regardless of our occupations. We all feel pain....we all need love.

[Mesterh]

No5 Carve your own path in life.

 

BTW thats not my choice, dunno what mine is yet!

[Dave Martin]

I worked in the petrol industry for 33 years self employed since the age of 21. Set up my last company in 1985 and built, re-developed and operated my own petrol stations and got quite a buzz out of it at times but just like all other industries it changed. One day I was sat at my desk and thought `I just dont enjoy this anymore`. I had the best cameras money could buy, great mountain bike, beautiful guns (I dont kill things though) quad bikes, horses, my own gym, nice house with five acres but I never got to enjoy any of it because I was always at work, so I sold because I figured it was time to find the time to smell the roses. You only get one shot so dont settle for hum drum.

[sean]

Met a customer up the gym this morning and we had a great chat about all things possible, i dont know what he does but he really is a wise and clever guy, very calm and easy to talk to. We got discussing business and life and he said he hadnt seen my mog about, i told him that i had sold it and was just pottering about in the van and little chipper and i was a lot happier in life with out the stresses of repairs and running cost etc. I still question my decision to down size kit and take things easier, but after talking to this guy i feel a lot more comfortable with my career choice. So just incase any of you guys are at a cross roads i thought this little bit of info might help.

 

He grew up with 3 other friends and they all hit a point in there life where they went there own ways, his decision in life when he was younger was to emigrate to America, so did his other friend, one other became a mathematics professor at Cambridge University and another became an alcoholic.

 

He told me you have 3 choices, Adapt. Migrate. or Perish.

hope this isnt too deep for a satuarday afternoon:001_smile:

 

I've read enough of your threads swb to know that you can be quite wise yourself (amongst other things...). You made the decision you did from the heart i'm sure. Less stress in your life makes you far more valuable to your wife and children. You chose your new path.....its the right one....until you come to another junction.....then choose another......that will be the right one too.

[MattyF]

I would of kept the mog....... but then i dont know your circamstances swb or what sort of work your doing....

[White Noise]

Another thought provoking thread . I like it . Ive tried to cut down the hours and do a 3 /4 day week . Always get snowed under though and then Ive got a back log . Which normally means wkend work . Got my weight down from 13st 8 lb to 12 st 9 lb after reading the ( how much do you weigh thread ) . So I,m going to start a gymnastic course after crimbo . Ive done a bit of stretching with them and it seems to have helped my shoulders problems . 11st here I come .

[Stephen Blair]

make a rule of not working the weekend mate, simples. unless its double money and you take a day off during the week, if you need to work more financially that is one thing, but to keep the customer happy that is another, i they want you then they should be willing to wait mate. As huck always says' you cant buy time'

[White Noise]

make a rule of not working the weekend mate, simples. unless its double money and you take a day off during the week, if you need to work more financially that is one thing, but to keep the customer happy that is another, i they want you then they should be willing to wait mate. As huck always says' you cant buy time'

 

Well I made a stand this wkend . Feel better for it . I still find it hard to say no to customers . Keep smiling until 10am and the rest of the day will sort itself out . Read this some where may be on here .

[Stephen Blair]

you need to have your work head and your family head mate. Write down a list of rules and regs(yor own personal ones) and get them printed out and put it on a laminated sheet infront of your work folder(if you have one) dont make decissions until you have consulted this on every job, also have a diary, even have 2, one for you and one for your wife. Plan yor months stuff with the family around the table after dinner, then slot your jobs in around these, being organised sometimes goes against the free and easy attitiude self employment can give you, but if you are not organised you waste so much time, and believe it or not, if the customer moans at you, you just point to the black and white writing and blame that, they then dont take it out on you and you just follow those rules, if you ask a waitress for free toast with your coffee she will say no, because she has been trained in the do's and donts of her job, we make on the spot decisions depending on how we feel and how nice the customer is, that should be irrelivant.(well i know i do sometimes and always used to)