I'd have to agree with you Dave.
I've taken a bit of a hammering so far, perhaps because my comment about a non event was read to mean the apparent suicide, rather than the prank itself which was what I meant. And there have been plenty keen to shoot me down as wrong without accepting they could well be wrong too, NONE of us know all the facts, so everyone's opinion is valid and it's a bit arrogant to claim otherwise. Particularly those unfortunate to have first hand experience of suicide, they should know better than anyone that every situation is different and no one can claim to be an expert.
Let's say that one of these dj's takes their life as a result of the mob justice some quarters seem to be clamouring for. Does that make you any better than those you have identified as the culprits of Saldhana's apparent suicide?
When I first heard the story I thought how tragic, poor girl, a young nurse, trying to make a career, over worked, underpaid and alone, tired and confused and believing she'd destroyed her career before it started. Suicide was an unfortunate and not entirely unsurprising outcome.
But then I found that the victim wasn't in that position. She had a support network, she had dependents. And my view shifted to those she left behind. Why wasn't it picked up sooner that she needed help? How many close friends let her down? Had she asked for help, had she not received it? How could she leave her husband and children? And my sympathy moved from her to her kids. They're the ones suffering.
So yes, in this case, on the face of it assuming she was the honest and upstanding person we've heard her to be, then there was an alternative to what she did. What the consequences of that may have been for her we don't know, but her kids wouldn't have lost their mother, and that's the important factor in all of this.
As a parent I can hand on heart say that nothing I could do, or anyone else could do, would make me leave my children without it being entirely selfish. A parent's job is to be there for their kids.
If you need help you have to ask for it, it's part of being a responsible parent.
I couldn't forgive my wife if she did this, I wouldn't expect forgiveness if I did it to my kids and my valid opinion as a parent is that no one should give up on their life and leave their kids behind. If you have nothing else, you still have your kids. If you need help, get it.
Nurse Saldhana chose this route, she wasn't forced down it by these buffoons.
And if you disagree with me fine, you're entitled to your opinion, but I'm incredulous that anyone thinks taking your life before Christmas leaving your kids is a valid response to any personal issue.
If she was vulnerable to this then she should have been cared for better, but the reports in the news imply she had no such reason to follow this tragic path.
I'm out of this one now before a posse comes after me as well!