Dyslexia

[Treegeek]

I would like to bang on about my fathers struggle with dyslexia and my sons own intreging case of D along with a twist of disbracsia but i can relate to steves own comments that ring a few bells for me ??

I love my job but struggle to retain infomation i want to do an arb theroy course but do not have the confidence to commit to it have sat and started reading books ie colin tudges secret life of trees and with in a short space of time relasize that the info is'nt there to be recalled even working 24hr clock can baffle me at times.

I have recently been promoted to team leader and when the paper work gets on top of me i just wish that i was back on the tools so to speak finding these events very testing

 

I would like to thank steve for bring this topic up me and the wife attend workshops for helping children for this kind of thing but its still carries a stigma for most people the lack of understanding just leads to frustrataion.

[Stephen Blair]

You are exactly right Tony, i don't see myself as a control freak, i do not bull doze my way in and try and take over every situation. Maybe its my definition or label that is muddled up.

If i have a couple of pints, which is very rare then i relax and everything seems fine. My wife calls that ' fun Steve ' the guy you lot know from the shows but at home i am a worrier, always have been. I have found ways of trying to relax, i absorb myself in numbers, usually money,bank balances, cost, bills i have to rationalise everything. Even what i am doing now, starting this thread, it helps me, even my other silly rigging thread, it is a side of me having some fun while sitting in the house acting all DAD like and serious:blushing:

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Considered doing Yoga? Self-Employed people often have problems switching off at the weekend.

[Stephen Blair]

me and the wife attend workshops for helping children for this kind of thing but its still carries a stigma for most people the lack of understanding just leads to frustrataion.

 

Its all about communication and finding out how someone ticks. I have always struggled with dealing with people, some folk i just click and thats it others i just do not get. But i know most of the problems are from me, so its easier to try and fix me than the rest of the world:laugh1:

Even now my eldset son who is 5 is starting to really become his own person, which i love and want him to embrace, the old school way of just shouting at kids is not for me, you have to motivate and comunicate with them. His concentration is all over the place and he just wants to do his own thing, i know about moral developement, diferent stages, Ego, super ego, id. He needs to find his way of dealing with the world, people but still fit into society.

I have always stuck 2 fingers up to rules and regulations, i am not an annacist or an idiot(unlike what Gibbon thinks on my other thread:sneaky2:)

I read on here 1 day. Rules are for fools but guide lines for the inteligent. That really struck a chord with me. I was amazed the first time i was told about risk assesments, i just couldnt get it. Having to do a rating of danger for walking around a man hole, holy moly i thought the world had gone mad. Pain hurts, end of, simples to me:001_rolleyes:

certain things stay in my head and are written in stone, if there is an emotional link, it is read flagged in there and i can recall it word for word. Music, sites, smells, feelings. Basic black and white just because you have to , then forget it:blushing:

[Andy Collins]

I see the pregnancy as the start of the breakdown of the control/coping systems you'd previously set yourself. This causes a mental "turmoil" maybe subconsciously. All the things that seemed Really Important have now had to be re-categorised to Slightly Less Important, with the welfare of wife and baby taking priority. Nothing prepares any of us for this great event, no amount of reading, no hormones changing in our bodies. We've done our bit, its now down to the good lady. We are now totally out of our comfort zone, unchartered territory. At the birth we males have a very minor "supporting" role, however we try to dress it up, the lady does all the work, we are powerless. This alters the dynamics of the relationship, and plots a whole new course for the rest of our lives.

So I wouldnt be surprised if it was to be the trigger for your issues.

[Tommy_B]

Thats a good way to look at it Stevie, A couple of people on here have also said that they have to relate things to experiences that we have had. Its the main way that people learn. If you have two guys watching the same programme and ask them both to takes notes, neither of them will write the exact same thing as the experiences that they've had previously will make them think in different ways. Learning is the same. You find the appropriate things that trigger you, and make you remember, and you're laughing!!

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Children arriving does make huge changes to the normal life.

[Andy Collins]

I see the pregnancy as the start of the breakdown of the control/coping systems you'd previously set yourself. This causes a mental "turmoil" maybe subconsciously. All the things that seemed Really Important have now had to be re-categorised to Slightly Less Important, with the welfare of wife and baby taking priority. Nothing prepares any of us for this great event, no amount of reading, no hormones changing in our bodies. We've done our bit, its now down to the good lady. We are now totally out of our comfort zone, unchartered territory. At the birth we males have a very minor "supporting" role, however we try to dress it up, the lady does all the work, we are powerless. This alters the dynamics of the relationship, and plots a whole new course for the rest of our lives.

So I wouldnt be surprised if it was to be the trigger for your issues.

[Wolfie]

I got tested in 2002 when I was 27 and confirmed as dyslexic. I do occasionally find myself having to read the same page of a book two or three times and will not buy a book if it's 100% text as I need some diagrams/pictures to break it up.

I've always been a slow reader but what amazed me from my test results was how pressure affected me. During the tests they did timed and untimed tests - my performance on the timed tests were so much worse. I now notice this in every day life, if I am put on the spot my mind will just freeze. I am allowed an extra 25% of time in exams, although I've never actually insisted in having it yet.

I don't mind the dyslexia now. I truely believe that people with it have other hieghten qualities such and ambition and drive.

[Stephen Blair]

wise words Andy, makes a lot of sense.