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[Andy Collins]

How far would you go to help out one of your best friends. One of mine is in deep doo-doo, financially, emotionally, and is about to lose their home. I am in no position to bail them out, I dont have the space for them to move in, and on the emotional front, well lets just say I'm no psychologist. But I do want to give them the support they need, I just feel totally powerless to help.

[PeteB]

Sometimes just being a sympathetic ear and a shoulder to cry on is all that you can give - but thats stacks more than a cold shoulder.

 

I'm sure they realise that you are not able to help financially or with a roof.

 

Good luck to your mates.

[MasterBlaster]

So what did this guy do to arrive at his situation?

[Andy Collins]

The way I see it, gradually spiralled downhill, married a wrong 'un, spent money they hadnt got, and certainly couldnt hope to earn. Now they cant pay the bills, the kids are suffering, upset. its so sad to see this happen to someone who was so full of life and ambition, now to lose everything. I feel bad cos I have what I need and wish I could help them, but at the end of the day I didnt make their "luck", they did. But the kids will be the real losers in all of this.

[PeteB]

I do what I can for folks I know, whether they be old customers, friends or people I know that have had a bad turn. I can remember my own vultures spiraling. I can remember the putting my business into liquidation and getting broken into the day the notice went out - nobody helped me. I know how I felt. I still have a bad credit rating thanks to a business putting goods supplied to my business onto my own card. Sometimes life sucks - sometimes you deserve it. Thanks Craig, your a ****!

[Mr Ed]

. I can remember my own vultures spiraling. I can remember the putting my business into liquidation and getting broken into the day the notice went out - nobody helped me. I know how I felt. I still have a bad credit rating thanks to a business putting goods supplied to my business onto my own card. Sometimes life sucks - sometimes you deserve it. Thanks Craig, your a ****!

 

Pete, It feels great knowing its not just me thats gone through this. Thanks Viv, your also a ****!

 

Andy, trust me, just being a hearing ear will be a lot. Encourage them not to dwell on their woe's, but to get back out there, and concentrate on what really matters.

[MasterBlaster]

Do what you can to help, but don't go overboard and allow his bad juju to affect you.

 

He made his bed, and now he has to lay in it.

[Andy Collins]

Well, seems he aint been paying his dues for some time now, well in arrears. He messed off at the weekend, leaving his missus to sort the crap out. Looking bleak for the family, talking of havng to go into a hostel for xmas. But, nothing i can do about it now.

[TheTreeWiseMen]

Buggering off and hoping the Mrs will fix things isn't really a good move....

[Lee Winger]

if he was a very very very good friend I might lend him a grand to get through a bad patch....

 

But as a rule I only help out my family, bloods thicker than water and all that..