Dyslexia

[redmoosefaction]

Do you think we should start a thread titled 'ways the iphone have changed my life'... and why aren't you all calling it dailysex:biggrin:

[mark hughes]

All this sounds so familiar

[Stephen Blair]

I have been looking intot his on line and now looking at all my problems. What i am realising is that being a bit slow at taking in information and being rubbish at organising and remembering stuff isnt a problem, its it the consequences, the emotions of feeling stupid, slow and a bit scatty. Now i use the words 'stupid' and ' slow' because these are the labels given to us. Even tonight, it is the first time i have discussed the chances of me having dyslexia with my wife, and the first thing she said was' you writing IS attrocious!' i said, ' no its not, its dificult for others to understand. The word attrocious means i am doing something really bad that i should know better.(i think)

I have been reading into coping mechanisms and defencse mechanisms. Ihave always been cheeky, quick witted, sarcastic and the first to point out another persons obvious things. Fat, thin, skinny, spotty, ugly etc. The second i would say something i would look arounf for the reaction of others, if they laughed i went, 'phew' if they didnt i would feel so stupid BUT i would also feel bad for making fun of the other person. But it would come out so quick, it was just me.

Ever since coming on this forum i have realised that that mechanism just makes you look like a tool, because it is in black and white. I fell out with Dean Lofthouse my first couple of days, i just reacted like a tool to his criticisms, when i looked over it the next day i felt like a complete TOOL!!! and apologised. On here i can think straight, give ansers and ask questions in confidence, in waking life i constantly feel nervous. Even today i struggled to shout down to some lads to shift some wood who were working on site. it took me 10 minutes to pluck up the courage.

From what i have been reading this comes from being younger and constantly shouted and laughed at for maybe making mistakes. I rehearse what i am going to say when i go to a check out, then i open my mouth and this garbled gobledy gook comes out, even on the phone sometimes i just forget what i was talking about, then i feel like a tool ha ha.

I now know why i was so bad at being a postman ha ha ha. Man it was hilarious, iwas the fastest worst posty ever, i was the only 1 EVER to fail the postman test. My mum went mental, marched into my work and gave me hell for being a smart ass. I didnt know what the problem was, i just didnt understand the questions!!

[Andy Collins]

I think you pointed out and laughed at others to take attention away from yourself, sort of a defence system. The thing is, we all have flaws in our character, none of us is perfect, thats what makes up who we are. So you get a little muddled, jibber-jabber when you're nervous, big deal. You werent born ginger and have to wear specs, or with some other gross disfigurement that cause people to point and stare in the streets.

[Stephen Blair]

Andy, that was so sincere and then I burst out laughing in the middle of the cafe, u sicko. Then I remembered you are blessed with strawbery blond hair and spectacles . I am not beating myself up, I have done in the past, now it's like pieces of s jigsaw fitting together, I remembered the time I tried to be a paper boy, haha, what a nightmare, took mr 4 hrs and it was 4 hrs of panicking hell getting shouted at by frabit old folk on a Sunday morning,

[Stephen Blair]

This predictive text isn't helping either lol

[common lime]

I have found the following websites helpful in the past;

 

Dyslexia - NHS Choices

JISC RSC Scotland N&E: Home Page - Supporting education providers in Scotland

Home Page - The British Dyslexia Association

Dyslexia Information | Find out about Dyslexia | Being Dyslexic

My son has Auditory Processing Disorder - APD - Times Online