Update:
Had a chat with the tree officer over the phone (he picked up after a month of not doing so).
He said my reasons for wanting to prune are not justifiable to grant any work on the tree. All the cleaning up after the trees on the driveway, root damage to driveway, mess on the cars you have to put up with - they're not good enough reasons to warrant granting work. Only if a building is being damaged would I grant work. Even if a shed were being damaged i wouldn't grant work.... so no.
I asked could even minimal low level branches on the trees on the left - he said no, they're young trees and would cause stress.
I said not even minimal work with your guidance? He said if you're allowed to cut one branch you might say i want to cut this and that too - i said we would do minimal work with your guidance, so can we compromise - he said no.
I said i'm using an accredited tree surgeon and we can do work with your guidance - he said it's their job to cut trees, mine to protect, so no.
He said you can try to appeal but your reasons probably won't be good enough (I said cars and driveway are a mess, so couldn't the minimal work even on the trees on the extreme left and right to alleviate this be allowed - he said no).
He said there are trees on my street that affect my car, i wouldnt expect them to be cut down for that reason. I said theyre not my trees, I couldnt cut them down if i wanted to, so can we compromise - he said no.
Slightly unrelated but adding to my frustrations with the lack of empathy....
In the past a dead silver birch dropped a branch where i was stood 2 minutes before in another part of my rear garden (i was constantly clearing dead branches for a while until the housing association neighbour removed it). I caught it on camera and was quite shocked considering the crash it made.
I called the tree officer to help get the housing association to take action. When i told the tree officer about it and tried to show the video he wasnt interested, He said you could cross the road and two minutes later a car goes past, it doesnt mean you were in danger.
A dead tree constantly dropping sizeable branches in a constantly used walkway in my garden cant be compared to crossing the road can it?!
I was quickly losing patience with no compromise or understanding from the tree officer so hastily said ok, bye and put the phone down.
I am planning to meet as many local councillors as I can in the hope that they can offer support in rejecting the TPO - I even said can you allow some work and then I wont have to appeal it, I can appreciate the amenity but just want to alleviate the practical problems - he said no.